Attn: Authors and Their Ex-spouses – Please Keep Your Publisher OUT of Your Marital Problems! by Angela Hoy

Attn: Authors and Their Ex-spouses – Please Keep Your Publisher OUT of Your Marital Problems! by Angela Hoy

I received an email from a woman this week who claimed to be the ex-wife of one of our authors. She said she’d heard that he was publishing a new book through us on a specific topic, which I will not mention here (for obvious reasons).

She wanted to know if any personal photos were in the book. She then stated that he and we do not have permission to publish any photos. I assume she meant photos she herself had taken. She said the author could only use stock photos in the book.

She then asked me to keep her email message private.

I checked and, yes, the author is publishing a book through us on that topic.

But, how was I supposed to discuss this problem with him without letting him know his ex-wife contacted me? And, how would we know which photos were his versus hers?

I wrote back to her, saying I would not send him a copy of her email but that I had to contact him about this situation to prevent any future copyright infringement problems. And, I did immediately write to the author.

I also told her that she really needed to contact him directly about this problem. I wrote a a book on divorce years ago, The Emergency Divorce Handbook for Women. While conflict after the deterioration of a marriage is almost always a factor, dragging third parties into that (especially a business), and asking them to keep it “private,” is pretty ridiculous and extremely unprofessional.

I found the part where she said he could only use stock photos amusing. I find it impossible to believe that the author has never taken a photograph himself.

Here’s the kicker. I checked and there is only one photo in the book…and it’s from Dreamstime. It IS a stock photo! He hadn’t even done what she accused him of. Had the ex-wife simply contacted the author directly, she could have learned that from him.

Under current law, if the author had used her photos, he would be on the hook for copyright infringement. But, of course, if we knew there was a conflict, he would need to provide us with proof that he owns the copyrights to the photos before he could use them. We always respect the intellectual rights of others, regardless of how they’re acting on a personal level.

A more appropriate email from her would not have asked us to keep the email private. I mean…what were our options? To flat refuse to publish the book, and not tell the author why? What if she was lying, and just trying to make him miserable? Even if she did own the copyrights, her approach could have been far more professional.

This isn’t the first time I’ve received a sour grapes email from an author’s spouse, and it most certainly won’t be the last. I wish people would remember to act professionally when they’re going through personal turmoil. I’m sure this was embarrassing for the author and, truthfully, the author’s wife should be ashamed as well.


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2 Responses to "Attn: Authors and Their Ex-spouses – Please Keep Your Publisher OUT of Your Marital Problems! by Angela Hoy"

  1. Melinda Rogers  February 20, 2018 at 6:23 pm

    Wow, Angela, the good thing about me is that my ex-spouse doesn’t know I still exist, so I know you won’t be hearing from him! Will finish things up soon,

    Melinda R

  2. pamelaallegretto  February 16, 2018 at 2:11 pm

    You “in-box” is never boring!